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Deconstructing the Diabolical Anti-Abortion Movement

March 26, 2013 By  

In many ways, the anti-abortion movement is one of the most hypocritical and downright diabolical elements of the Republican party platform. It’s been over 40 years since the Supreme Court decided that a woman has the right to choose a safe abortion for her pregnancy, but the Tea Party surge in 2010 and Republican gains at the state level in 2012 have put that in jeopardy. Abortion bans in some form have been passed in 10 states since 2010, and are moving forward in other states at this very moment. Not only that, but abortion clinics have been facing unprecedented regulations in states across the country, designed with the sole purpose of shutting them down–effectively making it harder for any woman seeking a safe abortion to receive one.  One case in particular, the Jackson Women’s Health Organization in Mississippi, is facing the possibility of getting shut down after a license revocation hearing scheduled for April 18th. As the last abortion provider in the entire state, being forced to close would make it impossible for any woman to receive a safe abortion in Mississippi. But what exactly is the anti-abortion movement attempting to accomplish? Once we take a further look at the numbers and real life consequences, we see just how dangerous this “movement” is.

Let’s say we did issue an outright ban on abortion–how many women would end up dead or severely injured from seeking an unsafe alternative? How many children would end up in abusive homes, or in an already overburdened foster care system? Are the anti-abortion activists going to guarantee help for the mother if they give birth and keep the child? Early childhood assistance, WIC, food stamps and even free lunch programs at schools have been ridiculed and railed against by many of the same people (and elected officials) who are anti-abortion. But what about the adoption option?  What if the mother gives the child up–are they going to guarantee that all of these children will be adopted at birth? Absolutely not. Take away a woman’s right to choose and we’ll have a whole new society of unwanted children being raised in foster care and orphanages, many for their entire childhood.

The statistics back it up. Currently, there are about 1.2 million abortions per year in the United States, according to data and estimates analyzed by the Guttmacher Institute. Let’s think about that number as we take a look at this data collected on FosteringConnections.org. The Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting System tells us there are between 50,000 – 60,000 children adopted from foster care per year in the United States, with another 115,000 or so ready to be adopted but left behind. Of these, over half will not be adopted this year–or next year. For some, the dream of a loving home will never be realized.

So let’s assume for the sake of argument that half of the would-be abortion total were to instead end up in the foster care and orphanage system every year. Somebody please tell me–where is an already overburdened system going to find the resources, necessities and billions of dollars to care for an extra 600,000 newborns every year? And what about the rest of those children who aren’t given up to the system but are instead kept by the birth mother or family? There is no way to know how many of these children would grow up in loving as opposed to abusive homes, which is perhaps the most important and saddest aspect of the entire hypothetical situation. What we can estimate are ballpark dollar figures on what this would cost the nation, since many of the same anti-abortion fanatics are also staunch fiscal conservatives who claim we can’t keep adding to our debt. If we take a conservative approach and assume only 300,000 of these children end up receivingSNAP and WIC benefits, the total cost per year would be approximately $630 million. This doesn’t take into account the mother, who would also most likely collect SNAP and WIC for herself. It also doesn’t take into account health care costs paid for by the government, as well as any cash benefits the mother may qualify for. When you factor in and estimate everything, the cost is easily well into the billions per year. Now, I personally am not one to put a price on life–it is my feeling that after a child is born into this world, they should receive basic, quality health care and access to nutritious food regardless of whether or not the parents can afford to pay for it. However, I wanted to put the dollar totals in print for the specific benefit of these “staunch fiscal conservatives” who love to complain about government assistance but also want to ban abortion. I’ve got news for you–you can’t have it both ways. Is every “life” precious enough to protect and provide for? If so, why are you pushing to limit and sometimes deny basic health care and food support to the millions of children already alive in our country today?

What it boils down to is a movement which likes to define itself as “pro life” but is actually about as anti-life as one could possibly be. Part of me could understand their strong feelings if they were consistent. If these people were discussing real solutions instead of stomping their feet in contradiction, it would be much easier to take them seriously. Instead, many of them reject even the simplest way to prevent an abortion–easy access to contraceptives. When they can’t even rally together and agree on that as a start, there’s really no hope that they’ll ever push for truly “pro life” solutions. Knowing that these types of people have already gained power in states across our nation should be a wake-up call to Progressives and sensible moderates alike. It’s time to reclaim the meaning of “pro life”–no longer should it mean pushing for the uninterrupted development of a fetus. To be truly PRO LIFE should mean caring and providing for a CHILD after birth, assuring that they have access to health care, food, a home and most importantly a loving family. If that message resonates with at least one “anti-abortion” advocate, I will have hope that more will understand.

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Breaking: GOP Rep. Jessica Upshaw found dead of a gunshot wound to the head

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“We can’t really call what happened yet. I don’t know if it’s a suicide or what,” Lewis said.

Simpson County Coroner Terry Tutor would not release any details.

“She’s passed, that’s all I know at this point,” he said. “I’ve given it to MBI. They’re doing their investigation on it.”

MBI spokesman Warren Strain said, “The crime scene unit is processing the residence, and the investigators are conducting interviews and following leads. It would be premature to make any statement regarding the investigation at this point.”

Gov. Phil Bryant said, “Deborah and I were saddened to hear of the passing of Rep. Jessica Upshaw. I have known Jessica for many years as an unselfish and dedicated public servant. This is a tragic loss for her family and all Mississippians, and our thoughts and prayers go out to her family during this difficult time.”

Representative Upshaw (R) served Hancock and Harrison counties.  Democrats and Republicans are both shocked by the news, and have given statements.

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Nappy Nomad: TW: rape Steubenville Rape Victim Jane Doe Receives MASSIVE threats via social media

maarnayeri:

stahpthemadness:

purple-harlot:

Here is the link dealing with it.  

Oh boo-fucking-hoo, the football stars cried.  Whoop-tee-fucking-shit.  SHE did NOT ruin the lives of those sick fucks.  Those boys did that themselves.  Anybody who thinks Jane Doe is at fault is a fucking asshole who needs to wake the fuck up and stop glorifying football and those involved in that piece of shit sport.

I say we get a twitter tag going called #SupportJaneDoe so she knows she’s not alone.  I’ll do it.  Who else is with me?

And people wonder why more people don’t report their rapes. #SupportJaneDoe

When the gang rape occurred in New Delhi, it sparked a typhoon of outrage (among men and women alike) that ended in mass protests demanding reform of how sexual violence is handled both juridically and socially. But girls get raped in America and are subject to threats with news outlets sympathizing on behalf of the perpretators, but west progressiveness or something.. alright.

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Republicans still don't have a clue how to woo women

According to CPAC, Democrats reduce women to their vaginas, but the GOP hasn’t gotten much beyond the uterusin

Senator Kelly Ayotte gives a hawkish speech at the CPAC conference just outside Washington DC.
Senator Kelly Ayotte gives a hawkish speech at the CPAC conference just outside Washington DC. Photograph: Pete Marovich/ZUMA Press/Corbis

I feel bad pointing this out, but the reason the (apparently sincere) “What Not to Wear at CPAC” Pintrest post got a lot of attention is because some attendees do need instruction on what not to wear. This applies to both male and female CPACers, but the fashion crimes committed by each gender said more about a Republican gender divide than it did about what they had in common. Guys crossing fashion lines at CPAC wore hats, costumes, or costumes that had hats. Women in suspect outfits wore (I saw each of these things with my own eyes): sequined tops before noon, gold lamé pants, and short skirts with knee-high patent leather boots (one pair in red, white and blue).

Men covered up; women exposed. Both groups were dressing to attract attention; I think only the women could reasonably appear on Fox Newswithout changing clothes. Fox News teaches young people a lot of wrong lessons, among the ones apparently absorbed by young women is that “attracting attention” means the same thing as “being taken seriously”.

The GOP has a parallel problem, one that pre-dates Fox: Its leaders seem to think that paying attention to women is the same thing as taking them seriously. This kind of thinking was the great folly of the Republican National Convention in Tampa last year: a showcase of diversity at the top undergirded by policies that suppress it among the rank-and-file, not to mention outreach that seemed to underscore the essential air of condescension. Remember the “Young Guns’ Woman Up! Pavillion,” were delegates could get “hair and make-up touch-ups” and salads? Remember “Tuesday is Ladies’ Night”? Remember “I love you, WOMEN”? Remember Romney losing the female vote (or, as the New York Post put it, “gals’”) by 10 points?

Well, the organizers at CPAC learned sure their lesson from that debacle. They didn’t feature women or women’s issues at all.

Yes, women were there. Plenty of them spoke! And not all of them introducing men. But the schedule was barren of any panel focused on outreach to women, any nod to the particular problem of attracting women to the conservative cause. If the Republican party’s gender gap got addressed at all, organizers folded into “minority” outreach, which is really the kind of blindly patronizing identity politics that conservatives usually criticize liberals for. The one panel actually sponsored by a women’s organization – the Independent Women’s Forum – was about “alarmist” environmentalism.

The panel “Conservative Inclusion: ‘Promoting the Freedom Message to all Americans’ was a hot ticket, and its title at least identified the problem. “The Right View … and The REAL Issues,” held to an echoingly empty main ballroom, turned out to address the party’s lack of minority and female support.

Maybe if that had been in the title, more people would have come; there was clear confusion and even anger in light of the decisive victory Democrats had won in that demographic. There were also no illusions about the central tactic in that victory: convincing women that the Republican party wanted to strip them of the chain of reproductive rights that women have slowly pulled over to their side. A “Right View” panelist put it more vividly: “Democrats reduced women to their vaginas!”

I don’t think that’s true in the first place, though there’s an argument that Democrats do acknowledge that’s a thing that women have and use. What to make of a a conservative, however off-handedly, locating the central arena for the fight for a woman’s control of her body in her vagina as opposed to, say, her uterus … or even her wallet? It’s a blinkered view of both women’s anatomy what motivates them in the voting booth. I think it may be a fundamental misunderstanding of how most people think of abortion as well.

A panel about the legacy of Roe v. Wade took as its starting point that abortion rights are part of “the left’s anti-child utopia”. Ask any woman who’s struggled with what she even might do in the case of an unwanted pregnancy if she thought the choice to end it would a “utopian” solution, or even a happy one. The same panel lauded the use of ultrasound images in changing the minds of erstwhile advocates for choice, though I wonder if the potential efficacy of that approach has less to do with forcing women to look at a fetus and demanding a specific outcome about it than it does with engaging in a woman in conversation of equals about an almost unbearably difficult decision.

For the past decade or so, pro-life advocates have adopted the language of “rights” to discuss their cause. At the Roe v. Wade panel, they made a further rhetorical link to the suffrage and abolition movements. I understand the parallel they’re drawing, but there’s a reason large numbers of women remain unconvinced that it’s “rights” and not control that motivate pro-life Republicans: it’s hard to argue your cause of fetal rights is a continuation of the expansion of rights to women and blacks if you don’t actually continue to fight for the rights of women and blacks.

Or, to turn it around a bit: If there’s nothing inherently anti-women’s rights about a pro-life stance, then why has that cause found its home in a party that opposes federal supports for working women, dismantling the judicial structure that enforces anti-discrimination, and would rather not vote for a bill funding policies proven to reduce domestic violence?

Maybe conservatives have had a hard time wooing women over to their side not because women are so immune to the appeal of “pro-life as pro-woman,” but because conservatives aren’t convincingly pro-woman in any other way. The rhetoric on the issue sounds better than it used to, but the underlying ideology hasn’t, which makes all the talk about “outreach” to female voters the same hucksterish “gotta get a better message” vamping that marked most of the other discussions.

The rhetoric of pro-lfe-as-pro-woman might also lack weight because the vast majority of those spouting it lack conviction. They come to be pro-life in the first place not because they’re pro-life or pro-woman, but because they’re conservative. (During the Roe panel, a participant was stumped by the simple query, “How did you come to your pro-life views?” “You’re just born to it,” she said. “Your family.”)

Years from now, Republicans might actually regret introducing that language of human rights into the pro-life discussion. Earlier, at a panel featuring the “next generation” of conservatives, Kristan Hawkins, president of Students for Life, talked about more than doubling the group’s number of chapters:

“When we win on this issue on campuses, it’s because we talk about it as a human rights issue.”

But pushed on whether or not “social conservatism” could be a part of the new iteration of the Republican party, Hawkins made a meaningful dodge: The people running Students for Life groups across the country “probably disagree with each other on gay marriage and disagree with each other on legalizing drugs”.

A genuinely progressive, pro-woman argument against abortion would organically be a part of a world-view that wouldn’t necessarily fit into any other aspect of “conservatism.” You might find yourself supporting early childhood education, or gay adoption, or gay marriage, or federal involvement in economic stimulus. You might find yourself no longer a member of the Republican party.

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Steubenville Rape Trial Verdict: Trent Mays, Ma’lik Richmond Found Guilty

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Defendants Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond.

A judge announced on Sunday that the defendants in the Steubenville rape trial were found guilty.

Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond had been accused of sexually assaulting a female acquaintance while she was severely intoxicated. Video and photo footage from the night of the incident spread across the internet soon after, drawing national attention to the case.

Mays and Richmond, both football players at Steubenville High School, received delinquent verdicts on all three charges. Delinquent is the guilty equivalent for juveniles. They were both convicted of digitally penetrating the West Virginia girl, and Mays was also found guilty of illegal use of a minor in nudity-oriented material. The boys will serve their sentence at a juvenile detention facility until they turn 21.

The defendants and their family members openly wept at the verdict.

The victim, who has not been identified, testified in court on Saturday that she did not remember the attack, but that she remembered waking up naked in a house she did not recognize. Other members of the small Ohio community also testified against the defendants.

Here’s more on the case from the AP:

STEUBENVILLE, Ohio — Two members of the high school football team that is the pride of Steubenville were found guilty Sunday of raping a drunken 16-year-old girl in a case that bitterly divided the Rust Belt city and led to accusations of a cover-up to protect the community’s athletes.

Steubenville High School students Trent Mays and Ma’Lik Richmond face a possible sentence of detention in juvenile jail until they turn 21, capping a case that came to light via a barrage of morning-after text messages, social media posts and online photos and video.

Both broke down in tears after the verdict was read.

Mays, 17, and Richmond, 16, were charged with digitally penetrating the West Virginia girl, first in the back seat of a moving car after an alcohol-fueled party on Aug. 11, and then in the basement of a house. Mays was also found guilty on a charge of illegal use of a minor in nudity-oriented material.

The case roiled the community amid allegations that more students should have been charged and led to questions about the influence of the local football team, a source of a pride in a community of 18,000 that suffered massive job losses with the collapse of the steel industry. Their arms linked, protesters stood outside the courthouse Sunday morning awaiting the verdict, some wearing masks.

The trial opened last week as a contest between prosecutors determined to show the girl was so drunk she couldn’t have been a willing participant that night, and defense attorneys soliciting testimony from witnesses that would indicate that the girl, though drunk, knew what she was doing.

The teenage girl testified Saturday that she could not recall what happened the night of the attack but remembered waking up naked in a strange house after drinking at a party. The girl said she recalled drinking, leaving the party holding hands with Mays and throwing up later. When she woke up, she said she discovered her phone, earrings, shoes, and underwear were missing, she testified.


“It was really scary,” she said. “I honestly did not know what to think because I could not remember anything.”

The girl said she believed she was assaulted when she later read text messages among friends and saw a photo of herself taken that night, along with a video that made fun of her and the alleged attack. She said she suspected she had been drugged because she couldn’t explain being as intoxicated as defense witnesses have said she was.

“They treated her like a toy,” said special prosecutor Marianne Hemmeter.

Evidence introduced at the trial included graphic text messages sent by numerous students after the night of the party, including by the accuser, containing provocative descriptions of sex acts and obscene language. Lawyers noted during the trial how texts have seemed to replace talking on the phone for contemporary teens. A computer forensic expert called by the state documented tens of thousands of texts found on 17 phones seized during the investigation.

The girl herself recalled being in a car later with Mays and Richmond and asking them what happened.

“They kept telling me I was a hassle and they took care of me,” she testified. “I thought I could trust him (Mays) until I saw the pictures and video.”

In questioning her account, defense attorneys went after her character and credibility. Two former friends of the girl testified that the accuser had a history of drinking heavily and was known to lie.

“The reality is, she drank, she has a reputation for telling lies,” said lawyer Walter Madison, representing Richmond.

The two girls testified they were angry at the accuser because she was drinking heavily at the party and rolling around on the floor. They said they tried unsuccessfully to get her to stop drinking.

The accuser said that she does not remember being photographed as she was carried by Mays and Richmond, an image that stirred up outrage, first locally, then globally, as it spread online. Others have testified the photo was a joke and the girl was conscious when it was taken.

The photograph led to allegations that three other boys, two of them members of Steubenville High’s celebrated Big Red team, saw something happening that night and didn’t try to stop it but instead recorded it.

The three boys weren’t charged, fueling months of online accusations of a cover-up to protect the team, which law enforcement authorities have vehemently denied.

Instead, the teens were granted immunity to testify, and their accounts helped incriminate the defendants. They said the girl was so drunk she didn’t seem to know what was happening to her and confirmed she was digitally penetrated in a car and later on a basement floor.

Ohio’s attorney general planned to announce later Sunday whether additional charges will be brought in the case, including against the three other boys.

Mays and Richmond were determined to be delinquent, the juvenile equivalent of guilty, Judge Thomas Lipps ruled in the juvenile court trial without a jury.

The Associated Press normally doesn’t identify minors charged in juvenile court, but Mays and Richmond have been widely identified in news coverage, and their names have been used in open court. The AP also does not generally identify people who say they were victims of sex crimes.

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North Dakota Senate Passes Two Unprecedented Abortion Bans

Posted: 03/15/2013 4:04 pm EDT  |  Updated: 03/15/2013 5:33 pm EDT

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North Dakota Gov. Jack Dalrymple speaks on Monday, April 16, 2012, to a group of North Dakota state agency administrators in the Brynhild Haugland Room of the North Dakota Capitol in Bismarck, N.D. (AP Photo/Dale Wetzel)

The North Dakota State Senate passed two anti-abortion bills on Friday that would be the first laws of their kind in the United States and would ban most abortions in the state. One bill would prevent women from having abortions as soon as the fetal heartbeat can be detected, as early as six weeks into the pregnancy, and the other bans abortions in cases of fetal abnormalities such as Down Syndrome.

House Bill 1456, the heartbeat ban, passed the North Dakota House of Representatives earlier this year and now heads to Gov. Jack Dalrymple’s (R) desk to be signed. The law would subject doctors to a $5,000 fine and up to five years in prison if they perform an abortion after the fetal heartbeat can be detected, surpassing Arkansas’ new 12-week abortion ban to become the strictest abortion law in the country. The Republican-controlled Senate voted to pass it on Friday without any discussion.

The Senate also passed House Bill 1305, which bans abortions that are performed based on gender selection or a genetic defect. Three other states — Pennsylvania, Oklahoma and Arizona — have laws banning abortions based on gender selection, but North Dakota would be the first state to prevent a woman from aborting a fetus diagnosed with Down Syndrome or other fetal anomalies.

Opponents of the heartbeat bill argue that it would ban abortions in some cases before the woman even realizes she is pregnant, which places an undue burden on a woman’s constitutionally protected right to abortion. “North Dakota politicians are now leading what appears to be a nationwide competition among anti-choice extremists to see who can do the most to strip women of their dignity and autonomy and endanger their lives,” said Nancy Northup, president and CEO at the Center for Reproductive Rights, in a statement on Friday. “The passage of this law is nothing short of a frontal assault on the U.S. Constitution, 40 years of Supreme Court precedent, and the health and fundamental rights of women.”

State Rep. Bette Grande (R), the author of both bills, said during her testimony before the Senate this week that she is not concerned with their constitutionality. “Whether this is challenged in court is entirely up to the abortion industry,” she told the Associated Press. “Given the lucrative nature of abortion, it is likely that any statute that reduces the number of customers will be challenged by the industry.”

The Center for Reproductive Rights is currently representing North Dakota’s only abortion clinic, the Red River Women’s Clinic, in a case challenging the state’s restrictions on medication abortions, which are commonly used for abortions in the first trimester. North Dakota lawmakers also are considering a personhood bill, which would give a fertilized egg legal personhood rights, and a law that would require abortion physicians to be granted admitting privileges at the local hospital.

The center called on Dalrymple to veto both of the new restrictions.

“This will not stand,” Northup said of the heartbeat ban. “We strongly urge Governor Dalrymple to protect the rights and health of the women of North Dakota by vetoing this noxious and dangerous bill.”

Dalrymple has three days to veto the bill.

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CPAC Women's Panel Fights 'Sexist' Obamacare and 'Liberal Indoctrination Camps' | Right Wing Watch

At a conference which literally banned a gay group from participating, blogger Crystal Wright during CPAC’s panel on women’s issues called on right-wing activists to “come out of the closet” as conservatives and fight the liberal elites.

Following Wright’s bold declaration, author Kate Obenshain said that the entire education system, “pre-school all the way to college to post-graduate work,” is one big “liberal indoctrination camp” that convinces women to reject marriage in order to go about life “determined to find evidence of sexism everywhere they turn.”

Naturally, columnist Katie Kieffer later called Obamacare “sexist” because it expands access to birth control, which she believes lets men get women pregnant or give women STDs without feeling any responsibility. “Obamacare is sexist because it puts guys off the hook,” Kieffer explained, “all he has to do is say, oh that’s not my fault you should have been using Obama’s free birth control.”

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Steubenville suspect's text messages paint disturbing picture of night of alleged rape

Trent Mays left, and Ma’lik Richmond are on trial for the alleged rape of a 16-year-old girl. (AP)

STEUBENVILLE, Ohio – Across a remarkable couple of hours Thursday, JoAnn Gibb, a slight but tough-minded forensic specialist for the Ohio Bureau of Criminal Identification and Investigation, sat on a witness stand in a small, third-floor courtroom here and read the contents of hundreds of teenage text messages – explicit and vulgar, at times celebratory and at other moments desperate and pathetically sad.

They were culled from the cell phones of 17 kids, seized in the investigation that led to two Steubenville High School football players being charged with the August 2012 rape of a 16-year-old West Virginia girl after a night of partying. It is one of the largest cell phone culls in the state’s history, and the contents of those messages intensified the trial in this football-mad, aging steel town.

“It was an extraordinary level of evidence and detail,” said Katie Hanna of the Ohio Alliance to End Sexual Assault and a veteran observer of sexual assault cases. “I’ve never heard of anything like it.”

Seventeen-year-old Trent Mays and 16-year-old Ma’lik Richmond are facing rape charges. Mays is accused of using his fingers to rape the girl, who many have testified to being drunk, in a moving car while another passenger filmed the action. Later, in the basement of a friend’s house, prosecutors allege Richmond digitally raped the passed-out girl while Mays tried to force her to perform oral sex.

Both are charged as juveniles and could be sentenced to prison until age 21. Their closely watched joint trials began here Wednesday and should continue through the weekend. Each maintains his innocence.

On Thursday afternoon, using the suspects’ own words, composed in the moment and reflecting the roller coaster of emotions that such an incident commands, Gibb calmly read the often-profanity-laced, crude, crushing and, at times, grotesque evidence. It was pieced together from an analysis of nearly 350,000 text messages, plus hundreds of thousands of pictures, videos, chats and other exchanges of ultra-connected teens.

[Related: Opening day of Steubenville rape trial focuses on key photo of girl]

The text messages aren’t – on their own – the indomitable evidence that will determine this case. The three material witnesses, plus the girl herself, are expected to testify for the state Friday. Those words will carry far more weight.

Still, the texts managed to shed an unfortunate light on the culture that surrounds the alleged crime.

They included, in the immediate aftermath of the incident, bragging from the defendants, each of whom acknowledged at least some sexual contact with the girl.

“We’re hitting it for real,” texted Mays at 2:20 a.m. of the morning of the alleged accident, after he was asked by a friend, “Where you at?”

Soon there were texts from friends of the boys seeking lewd details: “Did you [expletive] her?” one asked Mays. Others friends begged for pictures that the state says were taken – and later deleted and thus unrecoverable – of the acts. “Hey buddy,” one texted, “you want to send me that pic because you love me?”

Prosecuting attorney Marianne Hemmeter, looks at evidence during the trial. (AP)Over the following day there was gossip and questions and a sickening realization by the girl of what might have happened.

The girl says she remembers little to nothing because she was either extremely drunk or drugged. Numerous witnesses have described her as intoxicated. Just before the alleged attacks, she was sprawled out in the middle of a street, wearing only shorts and a bra, puking as a group of boys offered each other $3 to urinate on her.

She was so out of it some of the defendant’s friends wondered how any sex acts could have occurred with “a dead girl.” Mays agreed with that description in multiple texts, “LOL, she couldn’t even move.”

The girl, who lives across the river from Steubenville and attends a different high school, became aware of the alleged assault when she was sent a gruesome picture of her that was circulating.

“If that is [semen] on you that is [expletive] crazy,” a friend texted her.

“I hate my life,” the girl texted the friend at a different point. “I don’t even know what the [expletive] happened to me.”

Later she texted a friend, “I swear to God I don’t remember doing anything with them. I remember hearing Trent’s voice telling me to do something, but I said no.”


Eventually the evening after the alleged assault, the girl directly questioned Mays about the incident, the picture and the circulating rumors that she was allegedly sexually assaulted and that everyone in Steubenville knew about it.

“OK, tell me right now what the [expletive] happened last night and don’t lie to me,” she wrote to the defendant. “We need to talk about this right now.”

“Nothing happen last night,” Mays texted back. “You [sexual act] last night and that’s it.”

“OK, that is not all that happened,” she texted. “Tell me the truth now.”

Later, she emailed him demanding: “Why the [expletive] would you let that happen … seriously, you have no [expletive] respect … why wouldn’t you try to help me?”

Soon, reality began setting in for everyone. One of Mays’ friends texted him joking that “the girl’s life is ruined.” Another scolded him: “You’re a felon,” to which Mays responded, “not really.”

Finally another friend, Mark Cole, whose car and home were the sites of the alleged attacks and is expected to be a prosecution witness Friday, lectured Mays on the wisdom of forwarding along a potentially incriminating photo.

“Why are you sending the picture around of [the girl]?” Cole wrote in the first of a series of short texts. “No reason to [send] it … Dude, quit sending it, that’ll get you in deep [expletive].”

“I just sent it to [fellow friend Michael Nodianos].”

[Related: Steubenville rape trial divides Ohio town]

On the night of the attacks, Nodianos, who heard about the incident via pictures and texts, was filmed in a horrific video mocking her as “the dead girl” and cracking himself up by declaring: “She is so raped.” The video eventually went viral and outraged people around the world, causing intense scrutiny and attention to fall on the scandal and the city.


In days after the incident, the girl’s parents found out about the allegations, increasing the likelihood that authorities would be called. A panicked Mays boldly texted the girl’s father in an attempt to explain himself.

“Sir, this is Trent Mays. This is all a big misunderstanding. She was at the party and we talked … and she was really drunk and I took her [to Mark Cole’s house]. I never tried to do anything forceful with your daughter but I’m sorry for the trouble this has brought you.”

“What is on video,” the father texted back.

A protester stands outside the juvenile court in Steubenville, Ohio. (Reuters)There are even multiple text messages that are sure to inflame an already raging debate about the importance of Big Red football, the longstanding state powerhouse team from Steubenville High.

Critics have contended that Steubenville football players have gotten away with lawlessness under coaching legend Reno Saccoccia because the program serves as a rare point of pride in this economically depressed Ohio River town. It’s that entitlement, some claim, that led to these allegations.

Rumors have whipped around the region that Saccoccia, known simply as “Reno,” tried to squash the investigation initially and other boys weren’t charged because it might harm the team. Saccoccia and the Steubenville police have denied it. The Ohio attorney general has dismissed all talk of cover-ups. Even so, speculation on the street continues.

When word of the incident leaked out, a friend asked Mays what Saccoccia said about it.

“Nothing really,” Mays texted. “Going to stay in for awhile. LOL. And next time [someone is] into something, suspended for three games.

“But I feel he took care of it for us,” Mays continued. “Like, he was joking about it, so I’m not worried.”

In another text, Mays wrote: “I got Reno. He took care of it and [expletive] ain’t going to happen, even if they did take it to court.”

Saccoccia could not be reached for comment Thursday by Yahoo! Sports. It’s not known whether he actually tried to influence the investigation or if Mays simply believed he did. Not that it worked if Saccoccia did. Police seized Mays’ – and the others’ – cell phones soon after that text. Within a week, the Steubenville cops made the arrests.


Defense attorneys tried to argue away the texts by citing errors in the times recorded by the Ohio investigators, noting so many of the comments lacked context and pointing out the natural tendency for outrageous, but not necessarily honest, talk among teens via text message.

None of the texts will carry the weight of three eyewitnesses the state expects to testify Friday, let alone the words of the girl herself, or even semen evidence recovered on a Pittsburgh Steelers blanket located in Cole’s house that forensics is expected to link to Mays.

However, the sheer volume of communication and the base behavior reflected in so much of the messages is likely to weigh heavily on Judge Thomas Lipps. The above is but a fraction of the material. On and on and on this went Thursday, Gibb delivering each new bit of testimony in a calm, clear tone, no matter how each one was seemingly more vomit-inducing than the last.

Besides, even by the current standards of teenagers, many of these comments were indefensible, the sharing of pictures was potentially criminal, and the willingness of Mays to practically write his own confession was the action of a pure idiot. If convicted, Mays might rightfully earn the title of world’s dumbest criminal. It’s not just that he put so much into the electronic messages, but that he even understood detectives would assuredly search his phone and use them against him.

He texted on and on and on anyway. His phone had 61,613 messages on it.

“If the police come they are going to look at all my texts, duh,” he wrote to a friend when discussing what he was worried about.

“Delete them,” the friend texted back.

“Like phone records they can pull them up on a computer. LOL.”

“Oh, LOL. Hello cops,” the friend texted.

Hello indeed.


Later Thursday, long after the reading of the texts left the court shocked and aghast, a final witness of the night was called. It was nearly 8 p.m. and Steubenville’s downtown was dark and desolate, but the prosecution wanted to get Sean McGhee, an 18-year-old local who is currently a freshman at Campbellsville University in Kentucky, where he is on the wrestling team.

McGhee is Richmond’s cousin. He called Mays “one of my best friends.” When asked by special prosecutor Marianne Hemmeter how it felt to be a witness against people he’s so close to, McGhee said, simply: “It hurts.”

Yet McGhee, who was still in town last August before heading off to college, testified that he saw the girl at a party earlier in the night. He believed, based on her slurring words and stumbling walk, that she was extremely drunk. So later in the evening, when the initial texts and pictures and rumors began flying about what Mays and Richmond were allegedly doing with her, he became enraged.

This, he knew, was wrong. So he borrowed a friend’s phone (his was out of power) and texted the following to Mays:

“This is Sean, you are dead wrong. I’m going to choke the [expletive] out of you for that. You could go to jail for life for that. What the [expletive]. Sean McGhee.”

Hemmeter asked McGhee why he sent that and other accusatory, confrontational texts to Mays.

“I saw how drunk she was,” he said.

And with that, at last, there was at least a single teenager in Steubenville sending a single text that suggested someone finally had the slightest bit of perspective, morals or manhood to do or say a damn thing.

At last, after a long, long day of court, after two days of testimony, after all this evidence – all this “[expletive] the dead girl” and “piss on the dead girl” and LOL after LOL – finally, there was a single beacon of feel-good hope in this entire cesspool of a story.

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Steubenville: We're Sick and Tired of Rape Being Treated Like an Unavoidable Joke [TW: Graphic Rape, Graphic Sexual Assault, Rape Apologism, Rape Culture, Rape Enablism, Violence, Misogyny, Sexism] (Sections Bolded For Emphasis)

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A reasonable person might think that certain cases of rape would be clear cut and that it would be all but impossible to blame the victim of a crime, especially one with witnesses, photographs and other documentary evidence, for her own assault. But, we don’t live in a world where a reasonable person can think that at all. Instead we live in a world where people are surprised because of widespread outrage over cases like the one in Steubenville.

Yesterday, in our fatiguing chronicling of rape, the Steubenville rape trial began.  ABC reported that two boys “took liberties” (such an interesting turn of phrase if you think about it) with a drunk girl and now face rape charges. Attorneys for the defendants, two star football players (as everyone is intent on reminding us), argued that the boys did not rape a drunk 16-year old girl, whom they performed sexual acts on, because she “didn’t say no.”  The lawyers are asking the court to believe that there was no nonconsensual contact during a long night in which these boys (just like these boys) put their fingers into the girl’s vagina, attempted to have her perform oral sex (she couldn’t hold her mouth open), allegedly urinated on her and were photographed dragging her around by her hands and feet. As one of the boys was quoted saying in a tonally rape-friendly media piece“It just felt like she was coming on to me.”  Which, of course, is clear license to treat a living girl like an inflatable silicon sex doll.

If traditional coverage and similar cases in the recent past are any indication, what will inevitably evolve in the next few weeks is a media narrative about these boys, their football aspirations, their dashed hopes, and their basic all-American Boy Goodness. The flip side of that narrative is that a drunk, possibly lying, definitely regretful, stupid, slutty, selfish and careless girl ruined their hopes for the future. She’ll be yet another “spider who lured them” and “ruined their lives.” Here is where we indulge in the national sport of victim-blaming in high-def digital. The kind that allows us to blame one person for her own assault and avoid the rigorous self-reflection necessary to understand the system that produces kids who think its okay to humiliate and violate a limp and incapacitated girl for kicks. Why aren’t we talking about why the 40+ teenagers involved that night didn’t step in and stop what was happening?

I am hoping this case will be different and that we’ve reached a tipping point, but early signs aren’t particularly heartening.

This isn’t “just” about alcohol or teens or dashed football aspirations. It has much broader implications about consent and what we are failing to teach children. Alcohol and drugs don’t turn people, primarily girls and women, into rape victims. Rapists do. And while we’d like to think these things can’t be avoided and are accidental, they can be avoided and are, in fact, rarely accidental at all. These two boys may not have set out to deliberately drug the girl in question, or get her intoxicated for their purposes, but they took deliberate and aggressive advantage of the fact that she was drunk to the point of obvious and witnessed incoherence. This is done regularly with malice. Systemic tolerance for rape means they have traditionally gotten away with these crimes.

I’m pretending that I will successfully make this a shorter post than usual, so I am sparing you the data-bingey itemization here. However, at the end of this post is a list of 50 similar cases where men, (not the sole perpetrators, but the overwhelming majority) humiliated, raped and otherwise sexually assaulted people (including other men) who were drunk, drugged, asleep, anesthetized, comatose or otherwise incapable of giving their affirmative consent or saying “no.”  The perpetrators of these crimes include students, doctors, lawyers, police officers, dentists, cab drivers, homeless men, sales men, and other everyday rapists. In other words, rapists who don’t think they’re rapists. This list provides some specific context, as opposed to the larger context of all rape, in which to think about Steubenville.  Victims’ ages span decades. Where they were raped runs the gamut. They didn’t wake up and go out on the day of their assaults thinking that their default condition was consent to sexual activity by virtue of existence. Even if female. This list and others like it explain why this incident exploded as it did in social media.

Aside from the question of why anyone wants to engage in sexual activity with an unresponsive person, how would people think differently about this case and similar ones if two boys had “taken liberties” with a 55-year old nun described by witnesses as ”not moving,” “limp,” “incapable of coherent speech,” “carried by her hands and feet,” “so raped,” and “dead”? Which brings us to this: What is it about a girl, experimenting with alcohol the way her male peers do, that makes such a stunning difference to so many people asking in confusion, as in the case in Ohio, “What is there to try?”  Honestly?

Shame-based double standards make people think that girls who drink themselves blotto deserve what they “get“  and patriarchy demands that we think of boys as unable to control themselves. Can you imagine boys and men living with double standards that police everything they wear and do in a way that they are made to understand that they should “expect” someone to use their bodies in any way they please if they are “impaired” in some way? That the likelihood of this happening is ridiculously high?  What would happen if we restricted men’s freedoms the way we casually and routinely do women’s? In other words, if we “took” men’s “liberties”? Or if they even had a clear understanding of how rape imperils their liberty. As in… it is a punishable crime. Instead, we’re intent on telling girls to be afraid — of being raped or seeking justice if they are. Seeking justice for the victims of rape should not be portrayed as some kind of unfortunate inconvenience for their rapists.

The list took me less than 10 minutes to compile and barely skims the surface.  All of these are examples of people using power in predatory ways to assault other people when they are incapacitated.  Whether they understand their actions in this way is irrelevant and their inability to understand why their actions are repugnant, dehumanizing and ethically wrong is the result of rapey norms and a failure of education and culture. Contrary to popular mythology about “accidents,” these are crimes of control — not a lack of control.  The people who do these things refuse to acknowledge the basic humanity of the people they assault — the right to not be an object for someone else’s use.  They deny the central, civilizing principles of consent and the role it plays in the law and more broadly in culture.  The communities that produce them similarly fail.

In relation to Steubenville and similar situations, fully 28 percent of women and 3 percent of men experience sexual assault on college campuses. We send people off to school with close to zero information regarding sexual assault, rape, consent and the law.  Then add alcohol and stir. The result? Between ½ and ¾ of cases of campus rapes, similarly to the Steubenville case and countless others, involve alcohol and “impaired functioning.”  As Tara Murtha recently put it, “The preferred weapon of choice in a typical campus rape is confusion.”   Only 5 percent will report these experience because they fear shaming and encountering well documented and widespread institutional tolerance for the crime of rape. This is significantly less than the 46 percent reporting rate in the general population. But, even then, 97 percent of those who rape walk free. We’re sick and tired of rape being treated like an unimportant joke and being told in thousands of ways that the victims of rape should pay for the crimes of their rapists.

While teaching people about consent isn’t going to change the behavior of predatory serial rapists, it will cultivate a culture that encourages effective bystander intervention and teaches both women and men how to reduce risk. What we have now and by default are subtle and overt messages that teach children, like the two Steubenville boys and the kids who watched them, to treat other human beings — disproportionately female ones — as dehumanized prey instead of as a people for whom they should feel compassion. Why is this taboo? We are failing left and right.

In the meantime, kids in Steubenville will pay a high price. The thing is, the boys probably are basically “good.” Although I think they are clearly at fault for violating this girl’s body and human rights, I do not think it’s their fault that they were born into a culture where “nice guys” rape all the time and get away with it.  We could avoid an awful lot of hardship and wasted lives if we disregarded the repugnant antics of those who are aggressively opposed to a fairer distribution of rights and confronted these issues head on.

As I recently said when participating in a Women Under Siege forum on victim-blaming, explaining context and shifting the focus from individual people to the systems that produce them isn’t a mentality of victimization, it’s a critique of the deeply entrenched, destructive attitudes at the heart of violence and oppression, and the first steps toward dismantling them. That is a matter of personal responsibility.

50 Cases of Context

  1. US: Man suspected of sexual assault of unconscious woman in Oxnard
  2. US: NJ man sexually assaulted unconscious woman
  3. US: Man claims sexual assault while passed out and handcuffed
  4. US: Ex US Marshal Assaulted Woman While Unconscious
  5. US: Man arrested for assaulting unconscious woman
  6. UK: Four footballers filmed sexual assault while teen was unconscious, court hears
  7. US:  Man Assaults Unconscious Woman 
  8. US: Man accused of assaulting unconscious woman while broadcasting it live on Internet
  9. US: San Francisco Man Arrested For Drugging Young Couple, Assaulting Woman
  10. UK: Police search for unconscious ‘Brit teen’ filmed being sexually assaulted while on Corfu holiday
  11. US: Woman sexually assaulted while jogging in Lewisville park, police say
  12. US: Doctor sexually assaulted unconscious patients, police say
  13. US: Voiding of rape conviction involving sleeping woman called ‘bizarre’
  14. UK: Raped while sleeping, on and off for two years
  15. Canada: Toronto doctor sexually abused patients during surgery, judge told
  16. Italy: Italian Doctor Sexually Abuses Female Patient On Hidden Camera, Assaults Reporter When Confronted 
  17. US: UC Berkeley doctor charged with sexually assaulting patients for more than 20 years
  18. US: Former Cobb County nurse sentenced to life in prison for sexually assaulting sedated patients
  19. India: Juvenile raped ‘Amanat’ twice, once while she was unconscious: police sources
  20. Canada: Man Who Raped Unconscious Beating Victim Jailed
  21. US: Man guilty of sexually assaulting drunk unconscious Montco teen
  22. UK: Man raped his dying stepdaughter
  23. US: Quakertown man who raped unconscious woman at party gets state prison
  24. US: Man pleads not guilty to sexually assaulting unconscious teen in canyon
  25. US: 3 Men Knocked Woman Unconscious, Raped Her & Videotaped The Assault
  26. US: California Court Declares That It’s Not Rape If The Unconscious Women You Trick Into Sleeping With You Isn’t Married
  27. US: Athletic club weekend turns into nightmare for college freshman
  28. US: Lodi man accused of sexually assaulting woman who was asleep or unconscious
  29. US: Rochdale man who raped woman while she was unconscious in house
  30. UK: Judge condemns pair who drugged and raped vulnerable underage girls before moving on to ‘fresh meat’
  31. India: Girl drugged, gangraped, filmed, thrown out of moving car in Bhatinda
  32. UK: Girl was ‘sold’ aged 11, drugged and raped by child sex ring, court told
  33. South Africa: Teacher fired after drugging, raping pupil
  34. US: Man Filmed Himself Raping Women Under Anesthesia at Dental Offices
  35. South Africa: Fury at inaction over school gang-rape (school worried about upsetting the boys during exams)
  36. India: Tourist ‘drugged and raped’
  37. Dubai: British woman ‘kidnapped and gang-raped in Dubai’… and then SHE is prosecuted for drinking alcohol
  38. India: ‘Low Caste’ Teenage Girl Kidnapped, Drugged and Raped in Manipur, India
  39. Zimbabwe: Woman drugged and raped by doctor during surgery
  40. South Africa: South African shock as alleged drugged gang-rape victim charged with statutory rape in her own case
  41. India: Minor girl abducted, raped; 2 arrested
  42. Zambia: Girl -17 Drugged, Raped
  43. International Waters: Cruise Ship Rape: A Noa Man’s Land On The High Seas?
  44. UK: Businessman ‘drugged and raped girl at Mayfair home’, court hears
  45. UK: The horrific secrets of Levi Bellfield: Milly’s killer drugged and raped girls in school uniform in council flat dubbed the ‘raping room’
  46. US: Woman kidnapped, drugged then raped
  47. India: 40-year-old woman drugged, gang-raped in Delhi
  48. US: High school sports star caught on camera LAUGHING as football team players ‘raped and urinated on girl, 16, during house party
  49. UK: Four footballers sexually assault 19 year old in deliberately humiliating way while she sleeps 
  50. US: Dentist sexually assaulted patients as they drifted in and out of consciousness